I realised that since turning 35 three years ago, I hadn’t met anyone I liked romantically, who was also single, straight and interested in me. ’ one married ex-boyfriend wrote on my Facebook page. I joined running clubs, did acting classes and dance classes, went on skiing holidays and singles holidays and badgered my friends to set me up with their friends.
Some attempts were more successful than others: a singles holiday to Greece made me feel like Elizabeth Taylor due to all the men after me, whereas one evening spent dinner dating with seven single women in their 40s and just two men — one of whom walked out after ten minutes — made me want to give up on the idea altogether.
Boston, Massachusetts "Finding someone smart and interesting is easy in Beantown," says Talia Goldstein, matchmaker and cofounder of the dating site Three Day Young people are always congregating at bars and singing "Sweet Caroline" together at Fenway Park. According to a recent survey by Match.com, 30 percent of single women in L. said they orgasm between 91-to-100 percent of the time when they have sex. Plus, the probability of a casual fling becoming legit is high in this town: Thirty-one percent of New York singles have had a one-night stand turn into a long-term, committed relationship. "All the up-and-coming ambitious guys in their twenties are still looking for that special woman, leaving younger single gals the open field for men in the under-35 set," Battista says.
While I did meet some really nice men, it was certainly not at the tortuous round of singles events, at which there were always more women than men and everyone had a sad, resigned look in their eyes.
Whenever I was between boyfriends in the past, I would just enjoy life until another man came along — through work, mutual friends or our eyes meeting across a crowded room.
But when I phoned a dating agency eight months ago, everything had taken on a new sense of urgency. ‘Haven’t you found yourself a husband yet, Bridgey? But don’t look desperate — men hate that.’ I went speed-dating, online-dating, wine-tasting dating, quiz-dating and dinner-dating.
Rather, he introduces us to Jacob, the pseudonymous thirty-something schlub I alluded to above.
Jacob is a dedicated Green Bay Packer's fan who is less than enthusiastic about the idea of a 40-hour workweek.